Rules dating not exclusive
But don’t lose sight of the bigger picture about mistaking excitement for a future.
If you go on a first date, have electric chemistry and end up in bed, it’s impossible to know if he actually likes you, much less loves you, much less is looking to be married, much less is ready to be married, much less is compatible with you for the next 40 years.
Avoid giving him a list of complaints about things he did or didn't do that were upsetting to you in the past. A “clean break” is easier when both of you have the opportunity to express feelings.
Don’t promise to remain friends if you don’t really want to be.
If you’ve struggled to understand and connect with the “right” men, do yourself a favor, if you haven’t already, and put in your email address.
That will put you on my priority mailing list so that you’ll get first notification when my new offering comes out in a few weeks.
Also, if you think there is a chance he may become angry he would be less likely to express that in a public setting.
If you want to be exclusive with a guy, you have to give him time to want to be exclusive with you.
That can reveal itself over days, weeks, or a couple of months. The guy who’s been casually seeing you for over two months, where he occasionally texts you, occasionally sees you is simply not putting in the requisite effort to win you over.
This is a question I received on my latest survey about a dozen times, which lets me know that it’s important to you.
And if it’s important to you, it’s important to me.
You’ve said it to me loud and clear; you’ve been hurt before, you don’t want it to happen again, and you definitely don’t want to waste your time.